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JULIE Hobbs: “Chivalry is dead, and men have just got to buck their ideas up. They don’t know what we women want.”
Why men have lost art of love
Nick Towle23/ 6/2005
LAST week we revealed how thirtysomething women in Chorlton were the most love-starved in the UK. Census figures show six out of every ten women in the trendy district are unattached and living on their own or in shared accommodation with friends. But while many of these women wallow in the carefree, Bridget Jones-type lifestyle, it seems some are still pine for good old-fashioned romance.
Julie Hobbs, 38, says men in Chorlton have lost the art of romance and fallen for the 'Sex in the City' myth that all women are predatory man-eaters.
The flame-haired singleton, an actress and singer, says chivalry has gone out of the window and men are more Dirty Den than Don Juan.
Julie, who lives on her own in Keppel Road, said: "Chivalry is dead, and men have just got to buck their ideas up. They don't know what we women want - they watch Sex and the City and think we're mad for it, but they've got it all wrong.
"What we really want is romance. We like to be wined and dined, taken to nice restaurants, and have flowers bought for us, but I don't see much of that around here. We want someone who knows how to treat a lady, an old-fashioned romantic if you like.
"That's why so many of us are single - it's because the men don't know how to be romantic anymore.
"The only time my last boyfriend took me out was if it was somewhere he wanted to go. It's not men's fault entirely, they've just been given the wrong idea."
Julie, a self-proclaimed extrovert, is a sometime actress, sometime singer and lyricist who is currently editing her own films from home.
She has also appeared on stage and is now appearing in short films at the Mint Lounge's Filmonik Nights. She says her schedule is so busy she wouldn't have much time for Mr Right - even if he did come on bended knee clutching red roses and reciting poetry.
She said: "I'm so busy with my career that I'd have to give up so much and it just isn't worth it. I'd have to give up my singing, my acting, my career.
"There are a lot of women like that - they've got their careers and they realise it's not worth settling down and getting married."
Julie said the only thing that made her feel desperate was seeing some of her friends settle down, which sometimes leaves her with no-one to go out with.
She added: "At first you think it's great having all this freedom and time to yourself, living the so-called Sex and the City lifestyle, but then it starts becoming boring and you just want someone to go out with."
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